My roller derby friend, Kat Lee (aka Snarls Darwin), has become a business mentor/spiritual entrepreneur in the past few years. Lately she’s been posting a lot about marketing for spiritual entrepreneurs, and how spiritual folx are triggered by traditional marketing systems… and how our nervous systems react to that triggering. I’m finding her posts extremely illuminating and informative. (She’s at:, if you want to check out her offerings!) It seems that my nervous system tends to freeze. Today (and other days) she posted about procrastination as a manifestation of freezing. I really relate to her message. I don’t know if wanting to be a writer/blogger fits under the mantle of “Spiritual Entrepreneur” or not. I don’t really see myself that way. But I do believe I have a message that needs to be released from inside me, if for no other reason than to heal myself. And just possibly because others need to hear it. So that they – so that WE – feel less alone in our experience and our process.

For years – decades in the case of one of my projects – I have sat on completed projects. I have written, rewritten, edited, and re-edited ad infinitum a fairy tale that I wrote in my 20s and a novel that I wrote in my 40s. I have purchased special writer’s software and retyped my stories into it. I have allowed a handful of people to read the fairy tale. And I allowed one very trustworthy human to read the novel. I have gotten extremely favorable responses, as well as helpful suggestions.

And yet… I do NOTHING with my writing. I am terrified of the next steps. Is it fear of failure? Fear of success? Fear of exposure? Fear of my creative children being exposed to the harsh ugliness of the world?

Is it lack of savvy? I have literally NO IDEA how to find an editor or agent or publisher. When I try to do research, or even think about taking any of those steps, it sends me into a panic attack, and I freeze up again. Even now, I can feel my heart racing, my breath getting more shallow, my throat constricting just admitting this publicly.

But the thing is: the work is done. The stories are complete. They need to be read. I need advice on how to edit and fine tune them. I need guidance on how to take the next step. But I have no idea where to turn. And as a woman in her late 50s, I feel the pressure of Time bearing down on me. I don’t want to leave this life with my creative children locked in drawers and closets. I want to set them free, let them find their wings, and participate in their emancipation. I want to allow myself to make room for what comes next. What stories want to be written? What service can I offer? How can I help myself and others? How can helping myself help others? How can helping others help me?

Yesterday Saturn entered Pisces, which is my Ascendant/Rising Sign and home of my natal Saturn placement. This means that Saturn is now in my first house of Self and I am now officially in my second Saturn Return for approximately the next three years. When Saturn moves out of Pisces I will be in my last year or so of being in my 50s. Wouldn’t it be phenomenal if I could use Saturn’s gifts of Time, Structure, and Boundaries to allow myself to release my creative children into the world before my 60th birthday? Wouldn’t it be a precious gift to my inner (and outer) Maiden, Mother, and Crone if I could allow myself to be SEEN? If I could allow my creative children to be known?

So today for my daily tarot/oracle reading, I asked my oldest and newest decks – the tarot deck I have carried since I was 20 or 21 and the Alchemy deck I’ve had for less than a year – what my creative projects need and how to support myself while giving it to them. How do I stop procrastinating about even publishing the next blog post? How do I birth these children into the world? What do they need from me? And how do I take care of myself while I give it to them?

Three tarot cards - Two of Wands Rx, Seven of Pentacles, and King of Pentacles are in a straight line above a cross shaped layout of four Alchemy cards - The Despicable Face, The Void, Mystical Sister, and Synchronicty

If I’m reading the signs correctly, my creative children need me to take a leap of faith. They need me to silence my latent perfectionism. I always say that I am a recovering perfectionist. In many ways, it’s similar to other addictions or compulsions. No matter how much better I get, the critical voice of the perfectionist is still lurking and whispering deep within me. Preventing me from doing anything for fear of it not being good enough. Or being TOO MUCH. For fear of not being perfect. Where is that Goldilocks sweet spot of “just right?”

Maybe “just right” isn’t the point. Maybe I need to knock over all those chairs, bowls of porridge, and beds and just make a goddamn mess. Maybe the truth, the freedom, the answer is in the mess.

My creative children also need to be released to the Void, to be shown to trusted allies, and to be entrusted to the Universe. It’s time to release them, perhaps little by little. And in releasing them, they will give me the gift of peace and satisfaction of a job completed. Which may even be something I can take to the literal or metaphorical bank.

We need each other. My creative children and I need each other. My creative children and I need you. I need to allow myself to need you as much as I’m willing to provide for your needs.

This is me saying I see you and I need you, too. This is me waiting and watching for signs that the Universe is listening. This is me ready to take that leap of faith, to make that mess, to trust that it is safe to give these creative babies to the world. To know that even if we get a little battered in the process, we will be okay.

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Merry Meet

When I imagined myself entering the Crone phase of my life, I saw a very idealized vision of myself at that stage. Somehow, magically, I would transition to Cronedom ever so gracefully. My long auburn hair would gradually and gracefully transition to snowy white. Though lined and creased from living life, my skin would still manage to be taut and supple. And my body would magically shed any excess pounds, leaving me a willowy and radiant old woman. Finally, all the wisdom earned and learned in my many years of life would distill itself into something I could grasp and articulate to those who needed to hear it.

If that is who you came for, this is not the place for you, lol.

Alas, my reality has been more turbulent and messy than graceful and tidy. And though I know I have gained wisdom in my nearly 6 decades on this glorious planet, I still struggle to articulate it. Or to believe anyone wants to hear it.

So this blog will likely be like me: a little messy, a little turbulent, a little funny, a little wise, a little lost, and a little found. Above all, my goal is to always be real and speak my truth from the heart. To share my struggles, celebrate my triumphs, dispense any wisdom I can channel from the Divine, and learn from anyone who cares to share with me.

I don’t have a plan around how often I will post. Weekly? Or at random? Probably when the muse strikes, which is sometimes elusive. But for accountability’s sake, I will try to commit to at least one blog post a week until I get my blog-sealegs under me. I hope you’ll join me for this journey into my Crone Age Daydreams.

Yesterday I had a particularly moving and cathartic daydream. Actually it was a guided meditation by my favorite astrologer, Chani Nicholas ( It was a meditation on self love. In it, she asks us to envision a part of ourselves that we find challenging. A part that maybe we deny or neglect, abhor or reject. I’ve done this meditation several times before, but this time a new part of me came. It was my baby Crone body. She sat down facing me with her ruby dyed hair with grey roots showing. With her sagging neck flesh. With her 30+ extra pounds of belly fat which has been impossible to shed since transitioning into menopause. And I really saw her for the first time. How ashamed she is to not be the graceful, willowy ideal. How hard she is trying. How tired she is from all of that trying. I felt such tenderness for her. Such compassion. Such love.

We sobbed together as I mentally repeated the affirmations of love, acceptance, and validation that Chani was saying. The transformation in her was astounding as the words landed. With just a little sincere love and acceptance, she transformed from skittish and ashamed to radiant and proud. She told me she wants to be called Persephone. (Because she is a shadow-spelunking badass who is unafraid of the Underworld, duh!) I laughed and agreed wholeheartedly. And when Persephone folded back into Dawn, when we became one again, I felt the most tremendous peace.

Oh, I still carry the extra pounds and sagging flesh. I just see them differently now. I see her – Persephone – MY BODY – as my ally. She is my temple, my muse, my vehicle, and my guide. Seeing her this way, I know that we are forever changed.

Welcome home, Persephone. You are welcome here. You are wanted here. I promise to do better by you going forward.

And welcome to anyone who passes through here and stops to take a peek. You are welcome here, if your intent be to harm none.

Let’s dream some dreams.  

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